- The art is secondary.
- It fuels an objective.
- You are not the destination.
- Regardless of what we do, we all have to work with people.
- Even with the right intentions, we can run into roadblocks.
- This is a continuous process.
- In the daily grind, we need a simple framework.
- If a strategy isn’t working with a person, project or department, you need to try a different way.
- When you have your own personal reboot it won’t be complex.
- The toughest thing that happens when you have a new idea is having a passion to see it through and waiting for it to catch on with others.
- People are fearful of change.
- It’s easy to get frustrated when people don’t “get it.”
- God has built in our own personal smoke alarm.
- There’s an underbelly to ministry we don’t talk about.
- When we get out of sync in life, our reaction can be to give up or quit.
- Emotion helps inform us that we need to calibrate.
- You can’t lead change with static.
- You can’t truly see the other people you are working with if you have static.
- The more agitated you feel you need to think about how you can reset.
- The reality is… all of us are under pressure to get things done.
- We are under pressure to have results.
- We work under tight timelines.
- We need a system to stay connected to the needs and beliefs around us.
- We are the last to know how we are coming across.
- Take a chill pill.
- We are all exponentially more effective when we learn from people who think and see differently than we do.
- It’s not our job to send the right message, it’s our job to release the right response.
Make Space
- We have too little time.
- We have too many answers.
- We have too much self importance.
- If you have too little time, make some space.
- A lot of the work we do is insecurity work.
- When you work on the right things, God makes sure we get it all done.
- Make space for conversation.
- Start with what’s hurting most.
- It’s difficult for departments to share information with each other because we all have projects we are trying to accomplish.
- Listening can be a disturbing experience.
- It requires a level of self-awareness and self-criticism that is not easy to endure.
- We can’t control anyone else but us.
- It’s more of an attitude than it is a skill.
- This should empower you.
- Adopt an attitude of wonder and curiosity vs “how is this going to slow me down?”
- It doesn’t come from technique but from being genuinely interested in what matters to the other person.
- It’s not just space on your calendar, it’s space in your heart.
- When you are making space, it’s a trip… not a destination.
- It IS a trip!
- If we are always focused on the outcome we will constantly feel the frustration instead of the win.
- If we focus on the people over the project, or the process over the event, relationships will gradually increase.
- Managers do things right. Leaders do the right things. – Warren Bennnis
Man to Man
- We can get territorial because we are responsible for something.
- We need to run point.
- We are highly talented, equipped and resourced… we have passion, calling and a cause.
- The simple things are what hold us back.
- We might not look like this guy but we may look like him to others:
- Take the time to learn about your audience.
- We are more effective if we do man-to-man vs zone defense.
- Zone defense protects the turf.
- Man-to-man allows the team to make the right decisions.
- Be less concerned about defining the process and more concerned about the right people to be involved in the process.
- Personal conflict can get in the way.
- We have to be willing to learn about one another’s worldviews.
- Learn other people’s vocabulary.
- Define a common vocabulary.
- The more we communicate the less we communicate.
- When all lines of communications are open for input, decision-making becomes paralyzed
- Build rapport. Develop relationship.
- Don’t strive for consensus.
- We should be less concerned about consistency and more concerned about cohesiveness.
- We all don’t need to tell the whole story, we all need to tell the same story.
- If you want to maximize the response, minimize the options.
- Give people one, clear step.
- Have you ever noticed how we judge ourselves but our intentions and others by their actions?
Do the JFK
- Ask yourself, “what I can do for the other person instead of what can they do for me?”
- Think less about what we have to say and more about how it will come across to others.
- What can we do to free others to do the work they were meant to do?
- It’s hard to take something away from someone without giving them something back.
- Are you in love with your process or the people you are serving?
- Can your job description.
- Instead of focusing on your task or your talent, focus on what impact will you leave.
- Condense your end goal to one sentence that answers the question, “At the end of the day, if I do this then I have done my job.”
- The secret to changing others starts with changing ourselves.
- If you stop learning you will forget what you already know.
