A Note to Young Leaders… We Don’t Know It All

Being a “young leader,” I am definitely so excited about the incredible things our generation is doing in the world today.

Whether on the platform of ministry, leading social enterprises to create good, or living out our faith in new ways in the public square, we are doing some pretty remarkable things.

We’ve really got the entire world at our fingertips and are able to connect with people around the globe like never before. We have more available to us than any other generation before us and our potential is really limitless. We’ve seen the landscape of our world be flattened by technology, have lived through massive cultural changes, live in new economic realities, and are able to go and do things that generations before us could have never dreamed was possible.

We  are poised to do incredible things to make our world a better place and see more people come to know Christ and be connected with the local church. We take seriously the words of Christ to love the Lord your God with all of your heart, soul, mind, and strength and to love our neighbor as ourselves.

It’s an amazing thing to witness and something that’s humbling to be a part of.

God has created, chosen, and called us to walk on this earth for this time in history… amidst times of massive change, great need, cultural revolution, and technological advancements, we’ve been given the keys to shape the future. That’s a pretty tall order.

In our passion and zeal to change the world and create good… with our commitment to Christ and desire to lead the Church forward… and with our drive to do go against the institutions or “the man,” let me, as one of you, humbly confess, we don’t know it all.

Now I know we all share a lot of doubt about what we’ve inherited. We can be disillusioned by faith and have distrust for the church as we know it. We can be dissatisfied with the way things have been done and want to do things dramatically different. I know that it’s easy to write off the past and press forward to create a better future. I’ve felt the pain of being looked down upon because I was young. I know the frustration you can have if people who are older or who are in leadership over you “don’t get it.” I know sometimes it would be easy to just want to abandon the trail and blaze your own path. I get it.

But I’m also learning [and sometimes the hard way] that there is a lot we don’t know. There’s a lot we haven’t experienced. There’s a lot we don’t fully understand. There’s much, much more we have to learn. In our youthful exuberance we can miss some vital wisdom.

Simply put, we need to be teachable. And we need mentors.

We need to be willing to be teachable and to be able to take correction. We need to pause in the midst of creating great output and get input. And we need those who are further down the path to invest in us and impart wisdom they’ve learned along their journey.

We need men and women in our lives who have lived a little bit longer and experienced more to help us as we navigate our journeys and pursue our callings. We need people to point out our blind spots and lovingly correct us and give us  words of caution. We need to admit we don’t know it all and pursue wisdom from those who have gone before us.

We stand on the shoulders of giants and what we have today is the result of the faithfulness of those who sowed their lives, passion, and energy into us and the churches, organizations, and workplaces where we lead today.

We do a great disservice to ourselves and to God by thinking we know it all or that we have all of the answers. While we are poised to be used by God to great things we cannot neglect the need we have to be discipled and mentored by those who are wiser, older and more experienced.

It seems to me that a lot of us have jumped right into doing things for Christ [which is great] and the expense of being discipled to be more like Christ [which is not so great, at all].

I also realize the frustration you may feel for the lack of mentors that it seems we have.

I’m nearing the age of 29 and have been in ministry for over decade and have lacked a true mentor. I’ve learned a lot through my experience in ministry [and I do believe wisdom can come in the form of experience] but the only significant person I’ve had consistently listening and giving me advice is a counselor I pay to meet with every week.

I’m discovering that mentors won’t come through a program at a church or by filling out a check box in a bulletin. In order to find one, you’ve got to pursue one. You’ve got to be intentional, prayerful, and courageous to pursue those types of relationships.

We can complain there is a lack of mentors and write it off [which I have sadly done in the past] or you can become proactive in seeking one out [which I am currently doing]. I haven’t gotten one yet [yes, this is shameless "ask" to those of you who are older!], but I will say pursuing one may be one of the greatest investments we can make in our lives and development as young leaders.

We need mentors. We need wisdom. We need correction. We need someone to point out our blind spots and to share lessons they’ve learned the hard way. We need to be teachable. We need to be open to what God wants to speak to us through the life, wisdom, and experience of someone else.

We need to also realize the need to “mentor up.”

There is a lot we do understand that others don’t. We get technology, we get what’s happening, we see the changes happening around us because change is a part of our everyday lives. Mentoring can be a two-way relationship. As someone else invests in our lives and speaks truth to us, we need to also be willing to share what we know and candidly speak [in humility!] about the reality of our world and generation today.

There’s much we have to learn and share.

So, would you agree we don’t know it all?

Would you agree that we need mentors?

If you have one, how did you them?

If you are older, what’s stopping you from investing in someone that’s younger?

If you’re younger, what’s stopping you from pursuing a mentoring relationship with someone that’s older?

We need each other.  

Tim Schraeder is passionately committed to helping churches effectively communicate the timeless message of the Gospel in a way that’s relevant to our ever-changing culture. He presently serves as the co-director of the Center for Church Communication and is the creator and general editor of Outspoken: Conversations on Church Communication, a field guide for church communication leaders. Tim lives in Chicago where he can be found in any neighborhood coffee shop that has free wifi. Subscribe via RSS | Subscribe via Email | Twitter | Facebook | Google+ | Sign Up for My Newsletter
  • http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com @kylereed

    agreed…and amen

  • http://manofdepravity.com Tyler Braun

    Thanks for the challenge Tim. I wrote something about entitlement and the problems with it earlier this week, this seems to be hitting on some similar themes.

    • http://www.timschraeder.com/ Tim Schraeder

      just read it and LOVED it!

      • http://manofdepravity.com Tyler Braun

        Thanks Tim.

  • http://twitter.com/scottesavage scottesavage

    When I trace back the shifts I have made in my 20s (I’m 27), each one is traced to the role of a mentor or a community of discernment. Everything changed when I exchanged my cynicism for a teachable spirit. Thanks for putting a lot of my feelings and thoughts into words, Tim! Great stuff here. 

    • http://www.timschraeder.com/ Tim Schraeder

      :) I’m on the journey with you!

  • http://www.trelawrence.com Tre Lawrence

    Love the latent challenge in this post. Well written!

    • http://www.timschraeder.com/ Tim Schraeder

      Thank you!

  • Beth Ford

    I love this.

    Three years ago I had never heard the term “audio/visual” much less worked with anything of that nature. Today I have the honor of leading the a/v team at my church. Most of what I have learned about the equipment I deal with, the people I do ministry with, or the processes I function within I have learned through the messy process of OJT. Not exactly a bad thing, but not exactly for the faint of heart, either.

    Personally, often I succumb to the temptation to believe I am without any source of education. I feel insecure because I don’t have a single name I can attribute my skill set to. Ergo, I have no one I can dump on when the going gets rough. But, once I get over the panic of the reality that ministry was never designed to be easy, I realize that multiple people have mentored me in specific facets even though no specific individual I can claim as my personal all-around mentor. Not to say I don’t feel the need for one.

    I think mentors can be found in unique places and the expected candidates might not always be the best choice.

    I really appreciate this blog post. Being very transparent with everyone, I often feel out on a limb, trying to do stuff I am the least qualified for. My desire is to keep moving forward. We can talk about staying teachable all we want- but, unless there is active input we will stagnate. Up until now I’m not sure I thought it acceptable or normal or something to actually pursue a mentor. But, truthfully, it makes sense.

    Thanks for the fresh air. :)

    • http://www.timschraeder.com/ Tim Schraeder

      Wow, thank you so much for sharing your toughest.

      I loved what you said that, “entors can be found in unique places and the expected candidates might not always be the best choice. ”

      Good words. 

      Thank you for sharing your wisdom!